marriage compatibility and astrology
now i believe in astrology in general (indian or vedic astrology in particular) and that it works - particularly in the case of marriage compatibility.
the indian system uses nakshatras, which are 27 starclusters or constellations that lie along the path of the sun. an individual's nakshatra, or birth star, is the constellation the moon was aligned with at the time of birth. this is equivalent to the 12 zodiac constellations and the sun sign which is the sign of the zodiac that the sun was in at the time of the birth.
i should mention here that one should differentiate between the science of astrology and its practitioners. its equivalent to saying - if you don't believe in/understand say quantum physics, it doesn't necessarily mean the science is wrong, maybe the person teaching it is unable to interpret/explain it properly. i think astrological predictions have much to do with the personality and talent of the astrologer. and moreover astrology is a probabalistic science, one can never predict individual futures with absolute certainty.
why i believe in astrology - i don't know, guess it makes sense to me at some level. i recently came across this passage from a site and am posting it here - i have forgotten the site address, do keep in mind that i am quoting directly from the site.
"Prasna Marga states, "If the couple loves each other, they can enter into wedlock, even if there is no agreement in other ways. This is very important in the matter of marriage. One who loves a girl sincerely, from his heart should marry her. Pure love is greater than any other virtue."
This is to say that you should marry whom you want, but that does not mean that your compatibility should be ignored. It does not mean that love will remove the blemishes of poor compatibility. It only means that if you think it is worth having the relationship, even in the face of greater than average difficulties, you should. Poor compatibility indicates that the price of the relationship will be higher. It will take more time, energy, work, patience, and there will be more distress and ups and downs if your compatibility is poor. If you find it worth paying that price, then you should go ahead with the relationship. Look at the compatibility in order to really see what the relationship is, to really see if you want the relationship, and to see if you can realistically do what is necessary. The average person finds a relationship that fails Vedha, Rajju, Strii-Diirgha or Points eventually becomes more than they can realistically handle, so if any of these are missing, take a very good look at your relationship.
This is also to say that even if the compatibility is good, if one or both of you cannot love and relate healthily then you will not be able to take advantage of a good compatibility. If the compatibility is good and you are still having problems you will have to take a good hard look at yourselves. The good news is, that if the compatibility is good, any work you do on yourself will support and benefit the relationship. The relationship will also be a better arena for you to learn what you need in as healthy a manner as possible. If on the other hand, the compatibility is not good, then even if you work on yourself the relationship will not benefit much, or even at all, and you will find yourself in situations with your partner that really bring out the worst.
The important point about this method of compatibility is that, it indicates whether the relationship will flow in such a manner as to create mutual respect. Out of respect grows love, out of disrespect grow hurt feelings and frustration. When it comes to arranged marriages, this compatibility is, therefore, obviously important. When it comes to modern society that marries out of love, it is equally important, because after years of mutual disrespect many, many couples that once loved each other divorce. Mutual respect is the key to all human relationships, because from that grows real love."
i guess that is why most indian arranged marriages work, because all such marriages take place only after matching the astrological charts of the bride and the groom. i also have a previous post on marriage compatiblity. you can read it HERE.
the indian system uses nakshatras, which are 27 starclusters or constellations that lie along the path of the sun. an individual's nakshatra, or birth star, is the constellation the moon was aligned with at the time of birth. this is equivalent to the 12 zodiac constellations and the sun sign which is the sign of the zodiac that the sun was in at the time of the birth.
i should mention here that one should differentiate between the science of astrology and its practitioners. its equivalent to saying - if you don't believe in/understand say quantum physics, it doesn't necessarily mean the science is wrong, maybe the person teaching it is unable to interpret/explain it properly. i think astrological predictions have much to do with the personality and talent of the astrologer. and moreover astrology is a probabalistic science, one can never predict individual futures with absolute certainty.
why i believe in astrology - i don't know, guess it makes sense to me at some level. i recently came across this passage from a site and am posting it here - i have forgotten the site address, do keep in mind that i am quoting directly from the site.
"Prasna Marga states, "If the couple loves each other, they can enter into wedlock, even if there is no agreement in other ways. This is very important in the matter of marriage. One who loves a girl sincerely, from his heart should marry her. Pure love is greater than any other virtue."
This is to say that you should marry whom you want, but that does not mean that your compatibility should be ignored. It does not mean that love will remove the blemishes of poor compatibility. It only means that if you think it is worth having the relationship, even in the face of greater than average difficulties, you should. Poor compatibility indicates that the price of the relationship will be higher. It will take more time, energy, work, patience, and there will be more distress and ups and downs if your compatibility is poor. If you find it worth paying that price, then you should go ahead with the relationship. Look at the compatibility in order to really see what the relationship is, to really see if you want the relationship, and to see if you can realistically do what is necessary. The average person finds a relationship that fails Vedha, Rajju, Strii-Diirgha or Points eventually becomes more than they can realistically handle, so if any of these are missing, take a very good look at your relationship.
This is also to say that even if the compatibility is good, if one or both of you cannot love and relate healthily then you will not be able to take advantage of a good compatibility. If the compatibility is good and you are still having problems you will have to take a good hard look at yourselves. The good news is, that if the compatibility is good, any work you do on yourself will support and benefit the relationship. The relationship will also be a better arena for you to learn what you need in as healthy a manner as possible. If on the other hand, the compatibility is not good, then even if you work on yourself the relationship will not benefit much, or even at all, and you will find yourself in situations with your partner that really bring out the worst.
The important point about this method of compatibility is that, it indicates whether the relationship will flow in such a manner as to create mutual respect. Out of respect grows love, out of disrespect grow hurt feelings and frustration. When it comes to arranged marriages, this compatibility is, therefore, obviously important. When it comes to modern society that marries out of love, it is equally important, because after years of mutual disrespect many, many couples that once loved each other divorce. Mutual respect is the key to all human relationships, because from that grows real love."
i guess that is why most indian arranged marriages work, because all such marriages take place only after matching the astrological charts of the bride and the groom. i also have a previous post on marriage compatiblity. you can read it HERE.
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